Friday, 24 October 2014

Marriage: In The Trenches

I will tell anyone who asks that I have a passion for marriages. I believe it is a God placed desire in me to see successful marriages. Not just successful, but exceptional. It is nothing short of a blessing in my life when a friend or acquaintance wants to meet up for coffee or lunch and talk about marriage - each conversation and each shared prayer is like a training ground for the ministry I believe God has called me to.

I have had more than one friend tell me that they see my marriage as something to strive for or something that is intimidating. I think I need to be very clear here:

I come not from a place of expertise, but I am right down in the trenches with everyone else. Marriage is hard. Last night Chris and I had a fight over who was going to make dinner, and then after that was resolved we fought again at 1 am when I was woken to find him playing his (not so quiet) video games.

Tuesday, 21 October 2014

Elliott: Seven Months

Seven months! Elliott's personality shines through more and more each day and we love watching him grow and change. He is still a smiley little boy- to anyone that smiles at him or talks to him. He loves being in social settings, but can get overwhelmed when the room is too full of people or too loud. That being said he will still fall asleep in the middle of a loud worship service at church! Time is going by so quickly, but we're soaking up every single day and every single new thing he does. His last weigh in about 10 days ago was 20 lbs 5oz and his heights is up to 27 1/4 inches. His weight has leveled off a bit and he's stretched out. He seems leaner in the face and upper body, but is still holding onto those thunder thighs!

Tuesday, 14 October 2014

Ryan Adams Is Good

Chris and I went to see Ryan Adams live last week, and I just couldn't help myself from feeling nostalgic. Ryan Adams had a pretty integral role in our first days of flirting. Story time? I think so.

After our first couple of times hanging out at the pub, I was desperate to come up with an excuse to see Chris again. Make no mistake- I pursued him, not the other way around. We started chatting on Facebook and I told him I was planning on having people over at my house that coming Friday. He told me he was busy Friday, and being the smooth talker I was, I quickly followed up with "Oh did I say Friday? I definitely meant Saturday."

So Saturday rolls around and the evening seems to be going well. Of course I invited a couple spies (remember this Tiffany??) to scope him out. My friend Shannon and I had this habit of texting each other from across the room (sometimes from across a table at the pub) because we were cool like that and we were pretty sure no one noticed. She texts me "I don't think Chris listens to this type of music." I read the text with Atreyu, Chevelle, Slayer and Ensiferum blasting behind me. "Well, if he doesn't listen to metal, what the heck does he listen to??" I ask, exsaperated. "Umm... folk music I think?"

I just about walked away right there.

Folk music? FOLK music? Like a hippy with no shoes and a braided crown on her head singing off tune while walking in a field of wheat? I was not a fan.

So the night goes on, and despite the fact that Chris' ride fell asleep on my couch, we talked well into the wee hours of the night. The next day I ask him in a Facebook message if he had a good time (he did) and then mention that Shannon thought maybe he didn't like the music (he didn't) Dang. Well I mean, I don't only listen to viking metal... I listen to country too. (yes I was serious)

Looks like I picked his two least favourite genres.

"Well," he says "I like Ryan Adams" Of course I had never heard of him. "He's kind of country. I'll make you a cd" he says.

And so wouldn't you know it, he shows up to wings on Wednesday where all of his long time friends who, over the past 6 months have become all of my new friends. (I'll give you one guess of how Chris and I met) are gathered as we do every.single.wednesday. They're all "Whoa!! Chris you haven't shown up to wings in forever! Him and I know why he's there, and I blush.  He presents me with the very first of many burned cd's.

"Ryan Adams is good!" scrawled in sharpie.

I listened to it approximately 147 times in the next month. After our first (non)date, and then after our first real date.... After our second date where we went bungee jumping.... After our first kiss and after the bonfire where I realized I was falling in love with him.

Ryan Adams really is good. He's still not country (sorry babe) but yes, he is good. And for those who are wondering, I've really come around to folk music (it's not nearly as bad as I thought) and I still listen to metal turned all the way up when I'm all alone in my minivan. Yep. I'm that Mom.

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Monday, 6 October 2014

Shifting Focus Early In The Morning.

It wasn't even 8:30 am, but my chest was already tight and my shoulders tense. Elliott had woken up well before 7 (not my favourite thing) and as soon as I opened my computer I was met with the words s-t-r-e-s-s spelled out by half a dozen different family members and friends as they unravelled their stories upon me. Next, I spent half an hour on the phone with a family member who took those letters, italicized them and then retyped them in bold.

My sweet husband got out of bed halfway through that conversation, took our happy, chatty son from me, (who was probably wondering why Mommy's voice sounded so strained) made me a latte, and brought it to me as I cleaned up our room as I talked on the phone (I'm a hardcore stress cleaner. It's a bit of a problem) This man knows my heart oh so well.

Thursday, 2 October 2014

Motherhood Surprises

It happened a few weeks ago, and I'm not even sure how. It was a typical evening. We had dinner, cleaned up, then went into the living room to relax. I was playing with Elliott while Chris decompressed a little on the laptop. He decided to go take a shower before one of our favourite shows came on (We have always both been night showerers) I happened to get up and go to the kitchen right as he was walking from the bedroom to the shower, and that's when it happened...

Saturday, 20 September 2014

Elliott: Six Months

Half a year already? I don't even understand how this is happening so fast. Elliott's personality is shining through more and more each day as he shows more facial expressions and makes new noises. He still loves to smile at anyone who looks at him - it seems we've got an extrovert on our hands for sure!

Wednesday, 27 August 2014

When You're Parenting Alone By Accident

I knew this was going to be hard for me.

I've been anticipating being a Mom for as long as I can remember- long before I hit adulthood I would find parenting articles fascinating. I studied my cousins and my sister as they experienced it themselves. I soaked up all the information I could with the hopes of one day putting it all to practice. Along with all the information (useful or not) in my head, I've also always had a strong maternal instinct. If I see a baby or a child in distress all I want to do is pick them up and comfort them, and if they are happy all I want to do is snuggle them. I have always happily offered to babysit for friends and family, assuring them that I don't get stressed out by a crying baby, and yes please go have fun with your husband while I do laps around your kitchen island until he falls asleep.

So I knew this was going to be a hard one for me. I knew that I would have the tendency to take over and to do everything myself, and we would be in danger of Chris being a bystander to his own son's childhood.

It scared the crap out of me.

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